They have access to the best resources

My mother was a change of life baby, but that wasn’t exactly not normal back then.

Beyond that, there are greater risks for the mother as well as the baby. Average people don’t have the same access to health care as the wealthy, so it’s okay to wait to have a family, but people have to be informed and make as safe and responsible a decision as possible.

I dunno man, if you have that kinda retirement and inheritance…sure. I don’t.

Unfortunately African American women are at the highest risk for birthing complications, and that does not get better with age (which is true for all women). While I obviously hope for the best, these women all have high risk pregnancies.

Older fathers are one of the biggest risk factors for autism.

How about we all close the the app and just do a QUICK Google search. Please don’t piss me off 🤓.

A lot of times I think they store an embryo or at least eggs much younger. It requires a fair share of money and the stability to plan this out years ahead. And yeah pregnancy is tough on a body in your 20, I can’t imagine how bad it is 20 years later. I wouldn’t want to be pushing 70 when my kid is going to prom either. 

I was a product of a geriatric pregnancy and my mom was told by my dad and his mom to get an abortion because I would be “retarded”. I graduated high school early and have two advanced degrees. I was born in the 80s. Most of the kids who had developmental issues came from women half my mother’s age drug and alcohol depended. I used to love calling my grandmother whenever I had a graduation. If you’re meant to be here, you will be here. Let people be happy about starting a family, fertility struggles are real and heartbreaking.

This entire post (Twitter and here) is a dog whistle for trying to convince people to have kids young lol

Yeah, some people have kids late. But a lot of this stuff is often also: female celebs put off having kids because it’s hard to juggle pregnancy and kids while being a working musician or actress.

But as the title says wealthy people can have all the nannies etc. they want. Dealing with a little one’s sleep schedules etc. is a lot rougher when you’re old & poor.

The fresher the mayo the better the sandwich guys.

Source: Parents had me at 40.

I’m sure they have a round the clock doctor to monitor them. Most women, especially black women, do not have this. They are able to take the risk.

I believe its pretty common for women in the UK to have kids in their 40s…also there is nothing wrong with having disabled kids and if you feel there is then don’t have kids please.

Sex education really failed yall in the comments

Hilarious. Just because you can doesn’t mean you should

Unrelated to any health stuff, but raising kids in your late 20s-early 30s is already exhausting. Can’t imagine how hard it would be for an average person with average means who are in their 50s. All these rich people have 24/7 Nannies to help take the load off, not to mention the chefs and maids helping with all the housework.

I had an argument with someone on Facebook literally last week. Someone had posted that Vanessa Bryant was pregnant and I commented that whereas I thought that was beautiful, I hope that she has excellent care because she is a woman of color. Someone literally responded to me and said that because Janet Jackson had a baby at 47, all women that are over the age of 40 can have healthy babies.

I literally shook my head at how stupid that response was. I don’t know the specifics for latino women but I do know that black women die at 3x times a higher rate than that of white women in labor and I would only imagine that a black women over 40 being pregnant is at a way higher risk of complications in that regard.

Yes just because someone has money it does mean that they have more access than the average expectant mom when it comes to prenatal care but that money is not always a guarantee that you as a black person will get decent ob/gyn care or sufficient care in labor/delivery.

People love to say that Janet and Ashanti and Halle Berry had healthy babies but they forget that those pregnancies were IVF and also that we don’t know their experiences in labor/delivery. Oh and when it comes to those same people that mention that Janet and Ashanti and Halle supposedly had normal deliveries, they never bring into the conversation that women like Serena and Beyonce almost died in labor. People never bring into those conversations that Judge Hatchett’s daughter in law died in labor and she had to bring forth a lawsuit against the hospital. People never bring into those conversations that the lady who played “Condola” on “Insecure” went to South Central and found a black midwife agency to deliver her 2nd child because she knew about the risk of complications in labor and delivery as a black women.

The medical community has a long and tedious racist history when it comes to blacks and very little is done to make some of those wrongs “right”.

I am of the firm belief that a baby will always be a blessing. I just don’t like how the medical community tends to treat black women(regardless of income) when it comes to bringing that blessing forth into the world.

The harshest consequence of having children older is that you’re going to miss any meaningful opportunity to really be in your grandchildren’s lives. As you age, you become more of a burden on your children. You get sicker, more lonely, your job fades away, your friends start to die, and the reasons for your children to visit you, even if they love you, naturally start to fade as they get older and busier.

One of the few things you can do to support healthy adult children, is building strong foundational relationships with your grandkids. If you can do that, not only will your children spend more time with you but your life will have true purpose in your retirement years.

First kid at 30, grandbaby by 60, you’ve got probably 5-15 years of being able to practically take care of a baby, and then another 10 years to potentially go fishing, or see them start to grow into their own lives. Your kids will also be significantly more likely to take care of you if you do that for them as well.

Kid at 40, might not even see your first grandbaby until 70. By 75, probably can’t handle a being singularly responsible for a toddler. All this assumes you don’t come down with some kind of crippling disease in the meantime as well.

I had my kid by 21 and it was unplanned. It was hard as fuck to keep my marriage, career and life together. But, as a result, in my early 40s I can do my own thing while he gets his life figured out and I’ll probably be 50 when my first grandkid is born (provided the world doesn’t completely collapse).

While I wouldn’t recommend that path to anyone, having kids earlier does have some really cool benefits.

Cool eugenics there. It’s wild to me as a disabled person with autism and ADHD how many people love to say with their whole chest that I shouldn’t exist. Cool, but I actually think being alive kind of rules and I didn’t ask for your input.

Ps my parents had me mid twenties and you’re always playing the roulette with kids

Most of my friends started having kids in their late 30s, early 40s. My own mom had my youngest brother at 44.

This feels like propaganda to shame older mothers. It’s 2026. Medicine and maternal care has evolved significantly.