Instead of picking up the child who had just fallen, both parents looked in the opposite direction showing no concern resulting in the baby getting up itself without crying
by ManaeFiction
Instead of picking up the child who had just fallen, both parents looked in the opposite direction showing no concern resulting in the baby getting up itself without crying
by ManaeFiction
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Yes. This is how babies work.
Does this work with girlfriends and wives too?
Babies are durable. Lol
I take this one step further and if I’m sure my kids didn’t hurt themselves I smile and chuckle so they know it’s not a big deal
Babies babying.
Raising Gen-X V.2
After bejng born, she picked up her parents in the parkjng lot
Only DOCTORS get a helping hand up, kid
Children will react if you react. If they aren’t in major pain, or danger, then you should let them see how they should proceed. Notwithstanding, you still need to teach them between actual real danger and you’re going to be okay differences.
Parents reject child because it falls on the floor.
Anyone have that comic about the kid getting hit by a meteorite?
Translation of Mom: “What did we learn?”
You’re kinda supposed to this to not make a big deal so they won’t cry everytime they fall, from what I remember my sister telling me.
With my daughter I’d ask her if she fell “are you hurt, or was it just a little scary”
She tells me and I’ll act accordingly.
I will get a flack for this but I am not sure if this is the right way. Kids need love, security and protection. If the parents don’t provide it when they need it the most won’t they be devoid of it? I can see the both sides of argument here.
Sometimes it teaches self-reliance. Other times it results in extremely deep seated attachment issues.
Not a gamble I’d take
What is interesting about this? A child fell and wasnt hurt? Ok.
This is just a standard practice parenting. My toddler will scream and flop on the ground, then slowly open her eyes to make sure I’m watching, then immediately scream and cry more if I am.
If only a majority of Reddit users could do the same as this little girl.
This must only be IAF for people that don’t have any kids.
Fast-forward sixty years: Mom falls and breaks a hip. Child looks away, genuinely unconcerned.
This is normal, but if one ignores it too much, I have a feeling issues would develop.
Lack of empathy, care for others; not sure but I would limit this reaction.
Instead of avoiding giving any reaction or acknowledgement, you can also give a reaction that expresses you understand they fell and are watching them but know they are okay and are not going to pick them up. Totally ignoring can feel cruel or just difficult practically to implement for some people, so it’s helpful to know you can have a “reaction,” it just needs to be geared towards calm acknowledgement.
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Standard parenting, this is how you teach your child to figure shit out on their own, this kid is 100% fine
We sleep trained our boy from a young age. Fed him well before bed, didnt respond to his every cry at night.
If you rush to their every cry, they learn that’s how thry get attention. As a result, we had a 1 year old who slept 12 hours straight while some of my friends still co-slept with their kids until 3, 4.
We do the same in my family
Super smart parents here
I have done this and I have done the run to check on, it all depends on the fall. I had my son in his car seat on a buggy (stupid yes). I hit a bump and he bounced out and landed in the buggy, car seat and all. I smiled and acted like it was a fun ride and then he smiled.
Another time he fell in the back of my dad’s truck and I went straight to him bc I knew it hurt. Without panic I checked on his bleeding lip and offered him a popsicle. He cried but he took the lump with courage and didn’t have a meltdown.
It’s all about situation and timing and depends on the kid. Some need a bit more comforting and some are good with comforting in more serious situations.
I was a stay at home parent. This is what I did with all the of my kids.
That’s going to cause avoidant attachment in the child
Ignoring is not a good response. Much better is to respond with empathy saying “nothing happened, just get up” then say “come here” and give a hug.
Must be strange growing up as a child now and seeing the back of a phone as opposed to their parents face.
“Are you doctor yet? No? Then get up”
Children learn to regulate by watching their parents regulate.
Comments are proving my point that I keep trying to make to my mother and two sisters-in-law whenever my niece falls down (more often than not she trips on purpose just to get a reaction). They all go running and grab her and molly-coddle her E V E R Y T I M E. I just say, “You all are going to turn her into a little drama queen before she’s even a teenager.”
They also always give her a pacifier at all times and she is almost two. I say, “That’s why my teeth are messed up. Every time I see her she has a dang binkie in her mouth.”
She also has her own tablet and they give it to her whenever she is acting up and ornery. I say, “Great she’s gonna be addicted to screens before she even gets to pre-K.”
They also don’t teach her and enforce her to talk, so she just screams whenever she wants anything and they scramble around trying to figure out what she wants. And they call me an asshole whenever I say, “No we don’t scream, tell me what you want.” When she keeps screaming I tell her to point to what she wants. That don’t even work because I don’t get to spend enough time with her because they are always yelling at me, “Why are you pissing her off!” When I am just trying to talk to her and gently teach her.
Needless to say, they don’t listen to me and are making a fat, little, spoiled, bratty young girl.
Anyways thanks for letting me vent. I just care more than most about children because I had a rough childhood.
I agree that overreacting to something small like this isn’t the way but to look away, idk, whatever kind of attachment style comes out of that probably wouldn’t be secure lol
Trauma pedagogue here, working in residential child care — this comes up a lot in my field.
The idea behind this is sound — don’t overreact, because kids mirror your response. Fine.
But there’s a big difference between staying calm and looking away entirely. When a child falls and looks to you, they’re checking in. If you’re not there — emotionally or literally — that’s not resilience training. That’s a missed attachment moment.
Consistently ignored signals = child learns their needs don’t matter. That’s the opposite of what good emotional development looks like. Basic attachment theory stuff.
OP must not have kids
They bounce very well at that aged
Its only a big deal if you make it a big deal
This is only surprising to a non parent. The only interesting thing is how aligned the parents are on strategy
I once saw a kid tumble down a flight of 6 stairs
The kid asked him mom if he was ok, she said yes, and he walked off
Works.
Pretty damn good parenting right there! (Non sarcasm)
My family would’ve catered the crap out of them an the kids would’ve came running over to them as soon as they fell “crying”
i do this every time i see a baby fall except im just holding my laughter
This is how Gen X was taught.