I’m pretty sure this is legitimate emotional abuse.
by Intelligent-Bottle22
I’m pretty sure this is legitimate emotional abuse.
by Intelligent-Bottle22
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Testing relationships is how you kill relationships. Lying to your partner is how you kill a relationship. You wouldn’t want to be tested by your partner so don’t do this to them, it’s not healthy sane behavior. In the strongest relationships are stressed when one partner loses their job, especially in today’s economy and job market. Think about it, how would your partner react if you did this to them and then after three weeks you’re all like gotcha!
Dear Women or Men,
If your spouse does this to you to “test” you, you discovered that you didn’t marry a good one.
Dear men. Don’t be this person.
Lie to your wife about a very serious situation and watch her reaction. Nope. No emotional manipulation going on here.
Jfc, have an adult conversation with your spouse and quit looking to the internet for advice. Get a counselor for yourself if you’re thinking this is a good idea. If you are thinking this is a good idea get a marriage counselor and find out what the hell is going on. And don’t assume the other person is a problem… Ffs
Nah. Bad advice all around.
But why though?
Dear Men, don’t marry someone you feel the need to test, or feels the need to test you.
-a happily married man
Way to destroy a relationship.
These kinds of fucked up tests are straight up evil.
It makes me angry when women advice other women to destroy their relationship by “testing” it – and it is the same thing here.
My wife will not be tested.
21 days is a strange amount of leave. Like a very specific and not round number.
Idk about abuse but it’s 100% manipulation. Which I guess is a form of abuse. I take it back
Get back to me once you try it OP. And with your ex-wife’s number
In what universe is “taking your 21 day leave” an option?
Wouldn’t your wife discover she married a liar?
You know this is parody of a legit post from a women saying this to other women lol
Dear Men,
If you are dumb enough to go through this mental exercise chances are already pretty high your wife already sees you as distant and unavailable. Get your shit together and work on testing yourself instead of finding others to blame for your abject failures.
Sounds like this guy probably shouldnt be in a relationship with anyone with these kinds of trust issues. Thats diabolical and also, she shouldnt trust you after pulling some crazy stunt like that. Psycho behavior
Whoever wrote this does not understand what a real relationship is.
We have 21 days leave of work?
Are you just going to raw dog your leave over Christmas and New year because you used all your annual leave up for a shitty test?
Hey men. Blow up your marriage and spend 2 weeks lying about why. Then when she’s upset, tell her you knew she was a bitch the whole time. Prepare for happiness.
Yeah… that’s a legit super shitty thing to do to your partner. Fuck anyone who does this. I would never put my girlfriend that I live with through something like this unless I actually lost my job. And we are in a position where if that happened we would be fine for a LONG time.
And while you pretend to search a new job, apply for 1 room apartments. You will need one soon.
Dear all people,
Don’t do relationship “tests.” They usually lead to relationship ends, no matter what the “test” showed.
Dear women who have their marriage tested by their partner… get a divorce, wait until the first alimony payment is due. If he pays, tell him he passed the test of whether he is a responsible divorcee. If not, have his wages garnished and tell him he failed the test.
Give your partner ultimatums too, they love that! /s
Why would I only spend 14 days observing? What am I doing with the last seven, looking for a divorce attorney after she leaves me for being a douchebag?
I just read a post about this a couple of days ago. A man told his wife he’d lost his job. She was sympathetic, started taking on more shifts at work, she didn’t say a word when he didn’t help around the house or with their daughter. She believed him when he said he was job hunting every day. 5 months later she learned that he’d quit his job and was only applying to new jobs that were completely WFH. They’re getting divorced now. So yes, if you want to implode your relationship, go ahead and lie to your spouse. Very smart move 👍
Dear men, find out if your wife is toxic by being completely toxic.
Some loss and yiu had to use the savings to settle.
I’m pretty certain if all my savings disappeared to “some loss”, I’d be suspicious.
It works! If you even consider this, you’re a shitty husband and should encourage your wife to get the hell away from you
Yep, do this if your a insecure person. Normal people don’t need to prove they are in a stable relationship because they are adult enough to know or get out of that relationship.
Imagine *havin*g a job where you could take 21 days off in a row??
And then on top of that, not using it for vacation, but using it as some kind of marriage test and just sitting at home pretending to be unemployed??
Best advice to lose any trust in your relationship. Only an unsecure sociopath would go that route.
Hang on let me rewrite this for other Americans in the sub because a lot of us dont understand what the hell you’re talking about when you say 21 vacation days.
*Use the only 2 days of sick leave you’re awarded per year to tell your spouse that you lost all 100 of the last few dollars you had in your savings account. When she asks what happened, just be honest. Tell you had to buy 4 cartons of eggs at safeway.
When your employer fires you for calling out sick, apologize and assure him that you only did it for internet clout.
And when she discovers that she married a manipulative liar…. what?
Or…. Be a fuckin grown up and stop with the schiolyard test bullshit.
If you don’t already know who you married you’re even more of an idiot than people previously thought.
Hey men!! Use your precious vacation time to stress out your wife and then end your relationship!!
Tin foil hat theory: these “tests” are created by unpartnered individuals who sincerely want to wreck healthy relationships.
Fuck these tests and go fuck a cactus unlubed.