Hey everyone.
I analyzed 3.5 years of Telegram messages with my best friend and saw exactly how and why we basically went our separate ways. Couple of notes:
- G and S are us. M and N are our partners through this period of time.
- We were heavy texters even when we lived close, but after I moved to a different country it became basically our only way to keep in touch, save for the rare occasion of a CSGO game.
- Colored lines are a 30-day moving average. Gray bars are the raw numbers.
- idk why I made this. I guess I wanted to see how well our big life events lined up with our communication frequency.
- This isn't inherently sad! We both have other people in our lives that we grew closer with, and it's only natural as we entered our 20s, but our relationship specifically is drifting apart, mostly because of the distance and changing interests. We definitely aren't planning to stop being close friends.
- Data was exported through the built-in Telegram exporter, graph made with python+matplotlib. For those interested I can clean up the notebook and make it public on Github.
by kirisoraa
6 Comments
Data source: Telegram (local built-in export into JSON)
Visualization tools: matplotlib
Am I understanding the plot correctly that you both still send ~20 messages a day to each other? I wouldn’t consider that going your “separate ways”. Although there is a clear trend down towards communicating less.
350 messages a day is insane. 20-30 is still a lot and I would be annoyed with someone who was texting me that much.
Falling out seems harsh, is it always you who initiates conversations?
This is well presented and interesting
This is a trend that’s all too common as we get older and life changes
Are you able to add another view with “words per text”
I’m assuming each text is about 5-10 words and often sent in bundles?
This isn’t drifting apart, this is growing up. You have new interests, new social circles and other people just become more important to you at certain periods.
I’m a lot older than you but I might not see or talk to some of my best friends for months and I always know that they are there for me. You’re still exchanging 20 texts per day. This is ok.