Tepid take. Divorce happens for many reasons and not everything is about sex ffs.
Beneficial_Test_5917 on
”Things are better now that I only have to have sex once a year” ”That’s a relief, huh? And how many times a year does he have sex?” ”?”
JedDaGoat on
He just stopped initiating sex with you. He got tired of hearing no. He is getting plenty somewhere else.
Intelligent-Bird8254 on
Well I hear divorce is usually over financial stuff.
takkun169 on
This is dumb
SomeOneRandomOP on
Obviously divorce is a complex, multi factoral topic. But sex and differences in sex drive is a significant part of the story… it can lead to feelings of unattractivness, unwantedness… many guys equate sex to how much their partner wants/loves them. Lack of sex breaks down the pair bonding over time and can lead to break ups evening if everything else is going okay.
I think there’s also a disconnect between what guys and girls think when it comes to sex. My experience, women see men as shallow just wanting sex for the sake of sex… whereas there is depth of emotion behind it that’s not often expressed or appreciated.
Sex breaks down in marriage because of the same reasons that causes the divorce. Not that lack of sex causes divorce, they are both cause by the same issues
baconadelight on
If you marry your spouse just for the sex, you’re going to be severely disappointed when the sex drive dips. Stop marrying for sex. Problem solved.
psyclopsus on
I didn’t choose the house where I live based solely on the bathroom, there are many other reasons why I love my house. But if I was not allowed to use the bathroom after about a year of living there or only allowed to use it 4 or 5 times a year, that would be a problem and I would not enjoy living in that house
This is not a post about real estate
Jocelyn-1973 on
Divorce happens because at least one of the partners does not want to continue the marriage.
Just_NickM on
There’s only two ways out of a marriage. Divorce or death. I’m surprised it’s not *more* common
InspectorSuch on
That marriage post was a brutal read. I think you had to be there to appreciate this post.
kmonkmuckle on
I genuinely appreciate the thoughtful comments about divorce here. Even if this post felt like a cheeky one
homechicken20 on
Nuance aside, no sex or no money almost always means no marriage.
Knucklez78 on
People rush into things without forethought, lack commitment, fight to leave vs staying, suck at communication and shift blame rather than accepting fault, and divorce is to easy. Social media paints a false picture of a “better” life and wrong expectations which make a relationship mistakenly feel it is lacking
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Sounds like a lovely marriage
Tepid take. Divorce happens for many reasons and not everything is about sex ffs.
”Things are better now that I only have to have sex once a year” ”That’s a relief, huh? And how many times a year does he have sex?” ”?”
He just stopped initiating sex with you. He got tired of hearing no. He is getting plenty somewhere else.
Well I hear divorce is usually over financial stuff.
This is dumb
Obviously divorce is a complex, multi factoral topic. But sex and differences in sex drive is a significant part of the story… it can lead to feelings of unattractivness, unwantedness… many guys equate sex to how much their partner wants/loves them. Lack of sex breaks down the pair bonding over time and can lead to break ups evening if everything else is going okay.
I think there’s also a disconnect between what guys and girls think when it comes to sex. My experience, women see men as shallow just wanting sex for the sake of sex… whereas there is depth of emotion behind it that’s not often expressed or appreciated.
These points are also well documented in studies:
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC12680515/
Correlation does not equal causation.
Sex breaks down in marriage because of the same reasons that causes the divorce. Not that lack of sex causes divorce, they are both cause by the same issues
If you marry your spouse just for the sex, you’re going to be severely disappointed when the sex drive dips. Stop marrying for sex. Problem solved.
I didn’t choose the house where I live based solely on the bathroom, there are many other reasons why I love my house. But if I was not allowed to use the bathroom after about a year of living there or only allowed to use it 4 or 5 times a year, that would be a problem and I would not enjoy living in that house
This is not a post about real estate
Divorce happens because at least one of the partners does not want to continue the marriage.
There’s only two ways out of a marriage. Divorce or death. I’m surprised it’s not *more* common
That marriage post was a brutal read. I think you had to be there to appreciate this post.
I genuinely appreciate the thoughtful comments about divorce here. Even if this post felt like a cheeky one
Nuance aside, no sex or no money almost always means no marriage.
People rush into things without forethought, lack commitment, fight to leave vs staying, suck at communication and shift blame rather than accepting fault, and divorce is to easy. Social media paints a false picture of a “better” life and wrong expectations which make a relationship mistakenly feel it is lacking
Has he been ‘working late’ lately?