Explaining to my white friends in New England that this is how we do Southern funerals is always fun.
NottaNowNutha on
Mexicans do this too. Do white people not?
Full_Response8449 on
Fr cause I don’t want no damn refreshments I want to feast. Funeral chicken is always a hit😩
Training_Pollution57 on
How you gon have the whole family come together and everybody leave hungry? That don’t make no sense. Yall GOTTA break bread💯😭
StolenSweet-Roll on
Stupid white person question: what else do people do after a funeral? Just go home hungry? I’ve never NOT chowed down after the sadness….but maybe my family just likes to eat?
cutedorkycoco on
I think this is why my mom always said don’t be eating over her. You know what. I get it now.
klarkkent0106 on
I know that Fried Chicken was good
zombiepanda24 on
We feasted like kings after my mom’s funeral and took home leftovers. We are whiter than snow, and we EAT.
BusyBeeBridgette on
Nothing worse that a family member who can’t chew with their mouth closed.
hardlyreadit on
Ive only been to 1 funeral for a white person, but we ate after too. What culture doesnt use comfort food after a loved one dies
JensMusings on
My brother expected nothing less than for us to eat after his service. He loved cooking and eating and we were expected to feast to tell him goodbye. If he was still here, he would have been the one cooking the meal so of COURSE somebody better have cooked for his repast/wake. And our brother in law did. Oh boy did he. And we dutifully threw down on that meal while remembering my brother. And my grandma was the same, so her daughters dutifully cooked grandma’s signature dishes and the family dutifully threw down while remembering her. She wanted nothing less and told us so.
WiseBaby9189 on
I’ve never been to any fune, where you didn’t eat afterwards. Except for them zoom funes during Covid.
PokeyPete on
When I die, I want people to be well fed and to get over it. Tell jokes. Have a good life. I’m gone, don’t worry about me any more.
Bad_Routes on
I shouldn’t be sad AND hungry 😂
Wacky_Water_Weasel on
It heartens me to know that eating your feelings is universal for everyone
KenDanTony on
I’m sorry; there hasn’t been a reason to eat gristle since the Great Depression.
NastyStreetRat on
Well, I don’t think it’s a bad idea for a funeral. I would, however, add a breaded finger of a deceased person, and whoever gets it would have to pay.
sunniblu03 on
My first Southern Baptist funeral in rural Mississippi. They were speaking in tongues. I wasn’t ready for it. My face the whole time:
The food was Fire.
boodyclap on
This is an insanely common thing for every culture other than wasps
TheNerdySatyr on
As a foodie and chef.. I ain’t got no damn appetite when shit goes down.
LazyZealot9428 on
Was that First Lady holding a little fan? Perimenopause is a bitch!
kcsween74 on
You can always tell how good the food is by how many people are talking 🤣🤣🤣. That food was bussin!!!!
Edit: Keep mind that this is just the funeral. Traditional also dictates food is taken to the family’s residence in the days leading up to the funeral because taking the responsibility off the table of having to figure out meals was a huge blessing.
PM_ME_UR_HIP_DIMPLES on
I have yellow bone folk in my family and black/Cherokee and let me tell you. They take it away further. I’m talking days of cooking and eating.
Comfortable-Car7277 on
Yeah, you need to fuel and refuel incase more crying is needed lmfaooooo
Craneteam on
I’d much rather people enjoy a plate in my memory than sit around depressed. Make that shit a family reunion and reconnect with someone you haven’t seen in a while. Let the kids play and be loud
Eis_ber on
I’m sure the deceased would be okay with this. They’re likely joining in as will.
Express-Ad4146 on
Same in Mexico but we eat in Spanish and drink tequila.
Rightbuthumble on
There’s nothing as good as funeral food. All those church women trying to one up each other offering you their own version of chicken pot pie. Lord have mercy….The last funeral we went too, they had so much food my husband thought he had died and gone to cholesterol filled food heaven. Mercy.
CU_Tiger_2004 on
Aside from the repast, I seriously want my funeral to be a relaxed/happy occasion. Last thing I want is my friends and family all torn up and sad when I literally don’t have a care in the world anymore.
When my uncle died years ago, the pastor and all the speakers were people who knew him deeply and instead of it being this somber, solemn, occasion, they all told funny stories and cracked jokes about him and we all spent the whole funeral laughing and remembering good things about him. Even his wife and daughter were smiling and laughing through the whole thing because of how everyone approached his memorial.
It was such a good send off, I really hope mine goes the same way.
GOD_OF_FROGS on
This is my ideal picture of a funeral
beccabob05 on
Fun fact. Formaldehyde is an appetite stimulant. So if you had an open casket with an embalmed body, you’re going to be hungry.
Jealous_Tomatillo256 on
I always want to throw up after. Stomach in knots. No thanks
glot89 on
This is the norm from my experience regardless of background. You’re suppose to grieve your love ones, but its a celebration of their life too. At least for me, I’ve always ended up at a Buffet with the group one or another.
LeahIsAwake on
White here. We do this, too. It’s a Southern thing. Even if we don’t have anything formal funeral-wise, people come by the family home to offer their condolences (and to bring by a casserole or two) and it’s often a time filled with tears but also laughter and smiles. You’re comforting the family and celebrating that person.
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Looks at the aunties 🤣
Explaining to my white friends in New England that this is how we do Southern funerals is always fun.
Mexicans do this too. Do white people not?
Fr cause I don’t want no damn refreshments I want to feast. Funeral chicken is always a hit😩
How you gon have the whole family come together and everybody leave hungry? That don’t make no sense. Yall GOTTA break bread💯😭
Stupid white person question: what else do people do after a funeral? Just go home hungry? I’ve never NOT chowed down after the sadness….but maybe my family just likes to eat?
I think this is why my mom always said don’t be eating over her. You know what. I get it now.
I know that Fried Chicken was good
We feasted like kings after my mom’s funeral and took home leftovers. We are whiter than snow, and we EAT.
Nothing worse that a family member who can’t chew with their mouth closed.
Ive only been to 1 funeral for a white person, but we ate after too. What culture doesnt use comfort food after a loved one dies
My brother expected nothing less than for us to eat after his service. He loved cooking and eating and we were expected to feast to tell him goodbye. If he was still here, he would have been the one cooking the meal so of COURSE somebody better have cooked for his repast/wake. And our brother in law did. Oh boy did he. And we dutifully threw down on that meal while remembering my brother. And my grandma was the same, so her daughters dutifully cooked grandma’s signature dishes and the family dutifully threw down while remembering her. She wanted nothing less and told us so.
I’ve never been to any fune, where you didn’t eat afterwards. Except for them zoom funes during Covid.
When I die, I want people to be well fed and to get over it. Tell jokes. Have a good life. I’m gone, don’t worry about me any more.
I shouldn’t be sad AND hungry 😂
It heartens me to know that eating your feelings is universal for everyone
I’m sorry; there hasn’t been a reason to eat gristle since the Great Depression.
Well, I don’t think it’s a bad idea for a funeral. I would, however, add a breaded finger of a deceased person, and whoever gets it would have to pay.
My first Southern Baptist funeral in rural Mississippi. They were speaking in tongues. I wasn’t ready for it. My face the whole time:
The food was Fire.
This is an insanely common thing for every culture other than wasps
As a foodie and chef.. I ain’t got no damn appetite when shit goes down.
Was that First Lady holding a little fan? Perimenopause is a bitch!
You can always tell how good the food is by how many people are talking 🤣🤣🤣. That food was bussin!!!!
Edit: Keep mind that this is just the funeral. Traditional also dictates food is taken to the family’s residence in the days leading up to the funeral because taking the responsibility off the table of having to figure out meals was a huge blessing.
I have yellow bone folk in my family and black/Cherokee and let me tell you. They take it away further. I’m talking days of cooking and eating.
Yeah, you need to fuel and refuel incase more crying is needed lmfaooooo
I’d much rather people enjoy a plate in my memory than sit around depressed. Make that shit a family reunion and reconnect with someone you haven’t seen in a while. Let the kids play and be loud
I’m sure the deceased would be okay with this. They’re likely joining in as will.
Same in Mexico but we eat in Spanish and drink tequila.
There’s nothing as good as funeral food. All those church women trying to one up each other offering you their own version of chicken pot pie. Lord have mercy….The last funeral we went too, they had so much food my husband thought he had died and gone to cholesterol filled food heaven. Mercy.
Aside from the repast, I seriously want my funeral to be a relaxed/happy occasion. Last thing I want is my friends and family all torn up and sad when I literally don’t have a care in the world anymore.
When my uncle died years ago, the pastor and all the speakers were people who knew him deeply and instead of it being this somber, solemn, occasion, they all told funny stories and cracked jokes about him and we all spent the whole funeral laughing and remembering good things about him. Even his wife and daughter were smiling and laughing through the whole thing because of how everyone approached his memorial.
It was such a good send off, I really hope mine goes the same way.
This is my ideal picture of a funeral
Fun fact. Formaldehyde is an appetite stimulant. So if you had an open casket with an embalmed body, you’re going to be hungry.
I always want to throw up after. Stomach in knots. No thanks
This is the norm from my experience regardless of background. You’re suppose to grieve your love ones, but its a celebration of their life too. At least for me, I’ve always ended up at a Buffet with the group one or another.
White here. We do this, too. It’s a Southern thing. Even if we don’t have anything formal funeral-wise, people come by the family home to offer their condolences (and to bring by a casserole or two) and it’s often a time filled with tears but also laughter and smiles. You’re comforting the family and celebrating that person.
Caribbeans and the full on after party 💃🏾