Kids need time with their parents. If everything is just things and ignores neglect its not really everything
Important-Heat6541 on
the exact readon I cant hate my parents, I know my gradparents
theMegaTech on
It is hard to be parents. It is just as confusing to go with what you are expected to do (parenting, giving the child your time, WHILE also trying to do well financially for their sake too), as it is when young adults enter adulthood. Which, funnily enough, often also is about the same timeframe.
I’m not saying the expectation are exactly unreasonable, but also, nope, “just don’t have kids if you aren’t ready” is just as stupid – most of it is experience, and you can’t gain experience without, duh, gaining experience
Clenterra on
wtf is that logic
If you need 3 jobs to support a family and therefore don’t have much time to be there for your children then DON’T HAVE THEM
Why is it that hard for some people to have a fulfilling life without kids
MountainTeacher7 on
both the parties are not to be blamed, parents who tried their best for their children and children who tried their best for their parents. life is much more complicated. if both parties understands this. they live better
Unhappy_Geologist_94 on
Most of the time kids who weren’t understood by their parents are the ones who go to therapy.
Having good conversations with your kids and trying to understand what your kids like without criticizing them on every opportunity you get is easily the best quality that a parent
IvanTheAppealing on
My mother was a stay at home mom. All she did was make home a living hell
KrasnyHerman on
Yeah? Shouldnt have told me he’s gonna kill me one day
EverydayScrolls_ on
love isn’t just about putting food on the table, it’s also about presence, affection, and emotional support. You can appreciate the sacrifices while also acknowledging the emotional gaps they left. Both truths can exist together.
MercuryRusing on
My dad divorced my mom and then largely ignored me between the ages of 7 and 13.
Kang_Woojin on
Life isn’t always a fairytale. Both sides have their own sort of issues to deal with.
ToxicSmirk on
“That parent who worked 3 jobs”
Well now you know why they go to therapy, they didn’t interact with their parents at all. And when they did they were probably rushed AF.
I’m not saying that the parent doesn’t deserve credit, I just think it’s not fair to just say “be grateful stop whining”
Crazy_Macaroon7943 on
Well, not everything huh?
Apprehensive-Art-232 on
Can we get back to the memes and not the horrors of reality please?
AxPawn on
Yes and therapy will likely help them better understand themselves and their parents
Delete this shit
notasingle-thought on
Any parent with a brain knows that you need to be present in order to give your child a fulfilling life. Working multiple jobs and being away from your child 24/7 is violently detrimental. If you as a parent think breaking your back to provide the minimum for your child to live comfortably means that you gave them a good life, you’re a shit parent.
ChequyLionYT on
You can still go to therapy for the trauma of growing up in such a dire situation, for the mental scars that formed from not wanting to burden your overworked parents with your problems.
What should they do instead? Toughen up and cope with the mental issues they have? Or go seek treatment and become a healthier and more stable person?
You are clay. Your parents shaped you for years as best they could. Now you need to shape yourself and finish their work. Be grateful for what they gave you and build off of it, including going to therapy for the mistakes made and unfortunate circumstances.
Potential_Idea3014 on
Nah some shit is black and white. I could never say half the shit my parents said to me and about me to someone I supposedly loved.
Temelios on
Meanwhile my mother was completely unemployed and fully lived off of her combined alimony, child support, and disability checks and did nothing but play computer games (ActiveWorlds and RuneScape), chain smoke cigarettes (Marlboro Golds), and abuse her prescription medications (Vicodin, Morphine, Soma, Percocet, Oxycodone, and more) while I grew up shin deep in trash and dog feces and wore rags my entire childhood, not to mention the constant the regular constant screaming at and beating me.
It’s almost like some parents actually are complete pieces of human garbage.
CitroHimselph on
Providing the fucking minimum as a parent isn’t the same as a loving, fulfilling household.
Napoleonex on
That’s more an indictment of our society
RTA-No0120 on
My mom used to say that, she thought I was happy because everyday I came to a clean house and food on the table.
She basically did **4** things in her life as a housewife (*took care of the house [food/cleaning], cared about my sis that was 2 at the time, stalked/controlled my stepdad [cause trust issues from her past] and partied from Friday to Sunday [in other cities sometimes*].
And then now that I’m 27, she’s surprised how cold and insensitive towards human beings I am. (note : at the time, she told me she didn’t liked spending too much time with me because I reminded her too much of my dead dad, [*she still loved me tho*] she said).
Word by word, she not great at expressing & communicating.
See sometimes it’s not just a roof and food that’s enough to raise a child, specially when, when you raise them telling them, that they were always the planed with love, one…)
SometimesIBeWrong on
both things can be true. a parent can work hard as shit, love their kid a lot, and still mess up in some ways
806metalman on
One may have love or be provided for poor folk like me can never have both sadly its unintentional due to wounded people can only be as good as their wounds will allow and each patent trys to provide what they never had to the best of their abilities
Kage9866 on
It’s almost like you should prioritize spending quality time with them and giving them affection instead of buying things for them. Rather be poor and loved than rich and neglected.
just_a_person_maybe on
Imagine being so narcissistic that your child seeking mental healthcare is a personal insult to you. I’d be thrilled to see my kid asking for help when they need it, regardless of any mistakes I made raising them. Parents can’t be perfect but one of the single most important things a parent can do is recognize and acknowledge their failures.
mahoganayonnaise on
Everyone trying their best. Often failing, but usually trying.
Careless_Trash6411 on
My parents didn’t have to work 3 jobs. It hasn’t stopped hem from being shitty parents
TraditionalDuty2761 on
The generation that couldn’t say ‘I love you’ but showed it through 3 jobs
Perrenekton on
If that parent is Thomas Shelby then the need definitely needs therapy
Aloyrj on
All the genz people. Bunch of ungrateful forever childs
Beta_Codex on
My dad left me when I was 7 and picked me up at 13 from my home country to live in the United States just so I could have a good future. He expects I’m indebted to him, when he left me for almost 7 years from having no father but a mom with temper issues. I lived through from bullying, a breakup, having trouble with grades, humiliated and punished too much of my strict mom, but no father to ask for help with
Now that I’m 21 living in with him in the US. I still hold a grudge a bit of hate, for leaving me alone. All I have was video games and friends.
Mad_Ronin_Grrrr on
Shouldn’t be a problem moving forward. In the age of late stage capitalism you can have one job or three and you’re still living paycheck to paycheck. Younger generations are learning that time is more important than money.
ThisGuy2319 on
This is terrible when this happens and of course the child isn’t to blame, I would say the blame should splash on the stay at home parent in that case because they can either pick up a job to give the other free time with their children or try to incorporate them in activities however the schedule lines up and remind the kids how much the worker is contributing.
Extreme-Strain1847 on
where’s the meme 😭
yehonatank on
Thank god i was born to my parents they are goddamn saints
potato_knight99 on
Then don’t have fucking kids, no one forced you
MoldyHotPocket9 on
If the parent REALLY did their best like in this meme, than no one is at fault, but my account much like a lot of others, our parents pushed generational trauma and their own frustration of their days on us and expected a pass when they say “i did my best” BUT even if it were true, idk why its hard for some parents to accept that sometimes their best isnt enough, thats not a bad thing or necessarily a failing on the parents end, but the fact theres a lack of accountability fs is a failing
Life-Bass-2013 on
Usually it’s more about, people taking off their frustration like my father would randomly burst out because of his anger issues. When he was working but yeah, he don’t anymore. So you should know that, it’s not always this problem, even if parents have time for you. You may not want them to be there too. People always think from their perspective because they had a good life.
username-is-taken98 on
Yeah. He fulfilled the basic roles of a father. Had me fed, had me clothed, he supported my interest and more recently my transition.
He also beat me for years, and once even threathened to kill me by bashing my head in with a marble ashtray, and now I live in terror of authority figures of every kind.
When I was doing my homework he would yell at me until I cried and rip it to do it over if it wasn’t neat enough. And then hit me. So now it makes me puke to even think about going back to finish high school, you can get me to cry in a fetal position on the floor by looking me in the eyes and slightly raise your voice, and my calligraphy is even worse than when I was six.
There also were another 500 characters of stuff he did but yk, rules. And yeah. He still believe having done the bare minimum he has to by law excuses every way he raised me as a dysfunctional woman who has to fight wars with her brain to avoid hurting herself. So fuck this meme, goodnight from the psych ward
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Kids need time with their parents. If everything is just things and ignores neglect its not really everything
the exact readon I cant hate my parents, I know my gradparents
It is hard to be parents. It is just as confusing to go with what you are expected to do (parenting, giving the child your time, WHILE also trying to do well financially for their sake too), as it is when young adults enter adulthood. Which, funnily enough, often also is about the same timeframe.
I’m not saying the expectation are exactly unreasonable, but also, nope, “just don’t have kids if you aren’t ready” is just as stupid – most of it is experience, and you can’t gain experience without, duh, gaining experience
wtf is that logic
If you need 3 jobs to support a family and therefore don’t have much time to be there for your children then DON’T HAVE THEM
Why is it that hard for some people to have a fulfilling life without kids
both the parties are not to be blamed, parents who tried their best for their children and children who tried their best for their parents. life is much more complicated. if both parties understands this. they live better
Most of the time kids who weren’t understood by their parents are the ones who go to therapy.
Having good conversations with your kids and trying to understand what your kids like without criticizing them on every opportunity you get is easily the best quality that a parent
My mother was a stay at home mom. All she did was make home a living hell
Yeah? Shouldnt have told me he’s gonna kill me one day
love isn’t just about putting food on the table, it’s also about presence, affection, and emotional support. You can appreciate the sacrifices while also acknowledging the emotional gaps they left. Both truths can exist together.
My dad divorced my mom and then largely ignored me between the ages of 7 and 13.
Life isn’t always a fairytale. Both sides have their own sort of issues to deal with.
“That parent who worked 3 jobs”
Well now you know why they go to therapy, they didn’t interact with their parents at all. And when they did they were probably rushed AF.
I’m not saying that the parent doesn’t deserve credit, I just think it’s not fair to just say “be grateful stop whining”
Well, not everything huh?
Can we get back to the memes and not the horrors of reality please?
Yes and therapy will likely help them better understand themselves and their parents
Delete this shit
Any parent with a brain knows that you need to be present in order to give your child a fulfilling life. Working multiple jobs and being away from your child 24/7 is violently detrimental. If you as a parent think breaking your back to provide the minimum for your child to live comfortably means that you gave them a good life, you’re a shit parent.
You can still go to therapy for the trauma of growing up in such a dire situation, for the mental scars that formed from not wanting to burden your overworked parents with your problems.
What should they do instead? Toughen up and cope with the mental issues they have? Or go seek treatment and become a healthier and more stable person?
You are clay. Your parents shaped you for years as best they could. Now you need to shape yourself and finish their work. Be grateful for what they gave you and build off of it, including going to therapy for the mistakes made and unfortunate circumstances.
Nah some shit is black and white. I could never say half the shit my parents said to me and about me to someone I supposedly loved.
Meanwhile my mother was completely unemployed and fully lived off of her combined alimony, child support, and disability checks and did nothing but play computer games (ActiveWorlds and RuneScape), chain smoke cigarettes (Marlboro Golds), and abuse her prescription medications (Vicodin, Morphine, Soma, Percocet, Oxycodone, and more) while I grew up shin deep in trash and dog feces and wore rags my entire childhood, not to mention the constant the regular constant screaming at and beating me.
It’s almost like some parents actually are complete pieces of human garbage.
Providing the fucking minimum as a parent isn’t the same as a loving, fulfilling household.
That’s more an indictment of our society
My mom used to say that, she thought I was happy because everyday I came to a clean house and food on the table.
She basically did **4** things in her life as a housewife (*took care of the house [food/cleaning], cared about my sis that was 2 at the time, stalked/controlled my stepdad [cause trust issues from her past] and partied from Friday to Sunday [in other cities sometimes*].
And then now that I’m 27, she’s surprised how cold and insensitive towards human beings I am. (note : at the time, she told me she didn’t liked spending too much time with me because I reminded her too much of my dead dad, [*she still loved me tho*] she said).
Word by word, she not great at expressing & communicating.
See sometimes it’s not just a roof and food that’s enough to raise a child, specially when, when you raise them telling them, that they were always the planed with love, one…)
both things can be true. a parent can work hard as shit, love their kid a lot, and still mess up in some ways
One may have love or be provided for poor folk like me can never have both sadly its unintentional due to wounded people can only be as good as their wounds will allow and each patent trys to provide what they never had to the best of their abilities
It’s almost like you should prioritize spending quality time with them and giving them affection instead of buying things for them. Rather be poor and loved than rich and neglected.
Imagine being so narcissistic that your child seeking mental healthcare is a personal insult to you. I’d be thrilled to see my kid asking for help when they need it, regardless of any mistakes I made raising them. Parents can’t be perfect but one of the single most important things a parent can do is recognize and acknowledge their failures.
Everyone trying their best. Often failing, but usually trying.
My parents didn’t have to work 3 jobs. It hasn’t stopped hem from being shitty parents
The generation that couldn’t say ‘I love you’ but showed it through 3 jobs
If that parent is Thomas Shelby then the need definitely needs therapy
All the genz people. Bunch of ungrateful forever childs
My dad left me when I was 7 and picked me up at 13 from my home country to live in the United States just so I could have a good future. He expects I’m indebted to him, when he left me for almost 7 years from having no father but a mom with temper issues. I lived through from bullying, a breakup, having trouble with grades, humiliated and punished too much of my strict mom, but no father to ask for help with
Now that I’m 21 living in with him in the US. I still hold a grudge a bit of hate, for leaving me alone. All I have was video games and friends.
Shouldn’t be a problem moving forward. In the age of late stage capitalism you can have one job or three and you’re still living paycheck to paycheck. Younger generations are learning that time is more important than money.
This is terrible when this happens and of course the child isn’t to blame, I would say the blame should splash on the stay at home parent in that case because they can either pick up a job to give the other free time with their children or try to incorporate them in activities however the schedule lines up and remind the kids how much the worker is contributing.
where’s the meme 😭
Thank god i was born to my parents they are goddamn saints
Then don’t have fucking kids, no one forced you
If the parent REALLY did their best like in this meme, than no one is at fault, but my account much like a lot of others, our parents pushed generational trauma and their own frustration of their days on us and expected a pass when they say “i did my best” BUT even if it were true, idk why its hard for some parents to accept that sometimes their best isnt enough, thats not a bad thing or necessarily a failing on the parents end, but the fact theres a lack of accountability fs is a failing
Usually it’s more about, people taking off their frustration like my father would randomly burst out because of his anger issues. When he was working but yeah, he don’t anymore. So you should know that, it’s not always this problem, even if parents have time for you. You may not want them to be there too. People always think from their perspective because they had a good life.
Yeah. He fulfilled the basic roles of a father. Had me fed, had me clothed, he supported my interest and more recently my transition.
He also beat me for years, and once even threathened to kill me by bashing my head in with a marble ashtray, and now I live in terror of authority figures of every kind.
When I was doing my homework he would yell at me until I cried and rip it to do it over if it wasn’t neat enough. And then hit me. So now it makes me puke to even think about going back to finish high school, you can get me to cry in a fetal position on the floor by looking me in the eyes and slightly raise your voice, and my calligraphy is even worse than when I was six.
There also were another 500 characters of stuff he did but yk, rules. And yeah. He still believe having done the bare minimum he has to by law excuses every way he raised me as a dysfunctional woman who has to fight wars with her brain to avoid hurting herself. So fuck this meme, goodnight from the psych ward