Wish I could figure out what the barrier is for me to do that. People may as well be telling me the earth is flat if they give me a compliment lol.
AccountFun8859 on
Nothing really matters in the end so I’d prefer to dedicate my time to others. I know I will be alright, but a stranger may not be!
shiftyemu on
My therapist said something similar to me once. Asked me what I liked about myself. After a very long pause I told him I liked the fact I am kind. He asked me to elaborate. I talked about how I worked with autistic kids, I always made food for ill friends, I’m vegan purely on ethics, I always have space if someone needs to crash at my house, a few more things. He nodded and agreed I sounded like a kind person. Then he said “but are you kind to yourself?” Just the idea that I was deserving of the same kindness I showed everyone else blew my damn mind!
Phoenix_Ninja15 on
Sometimes it only works in a one way outlet.
Sometimes it takes someone showing a person love for the person to understand how to love themselves.
I can use me as an example. I loved making people happy, going out of my way to make smiles, do things for people, etc. But I never knew how to show that same kindness to myself cause I didn’t see myself as worth giving it to. I had esteem issues and had been beaten down by a couple people that it just stuck. People would always tell me I couldn’t really love someone if I couldn’t love myself. This stopped me from even trying to find a relationship cause now I wasn’t worthy of one.
It took my now wife who actually showed me what love looked like and showed me what I could love myself about, for me to start loving myself.
Sometimes it’s easier to make someone else happy even if you’re hurting and not really understand how to give yourself that same love.
Sometimes it takes someone else to show someone love.
General-LeeAnxious on
because I constantly use my love on wrong people like an idiot , so what if I’m wrong to use it on too, i struggle to find reasons to most of the time
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Because I’m full of it.
Wish I could figure out what the barrier is for me to do that. People may as well be telling me the earth is flat if they give me a compliment lol.
Nothing really matters in the end so I’d prefer to dedicate my time to others. I know I will be alright, but a stranger may not be!
My therapist said something similar to me once. Asked me what I liked about myself. After a very long pause I told him I liked the fact I am kind. He asked me to elaborate. I talked about how I worked with autistic kids, I always made food for ill friends, I’m vegan purely on ethics, I always have space if someone needs to crash at my house, a few more things. He nodded and agreed I sounded like a kind person. Then he said “but are you kind to yourself?” Just the idea that I was deserving of the same kindness I showed everyone else blew my damn mind!
Sometimes it only works in a one way outlet.
Sometimes it takes someone showing a person love for the person to understand how to love themselves.
I can use me as an example. I loved making people happy, going out of my way to make smiles, do things for people, etc. But I never knew how to show that same kindness to myself cause I didn’t see myself as worth giving it to. I had esteem issues and had been beaten down by a couple people that it just stuck. People would always tell me I couldn’t really love someone if I couldn’t love myself. This stopped me from even trying to find a relationship cause now I wasn’t worthy of one.
It took my now wife who actually showed me what love looked like and showed me what I could love myself about, for me to start loving myself.
Sometimes it’s easier to make someone else happy even if you’re hurting and not really understand how to give yourself that same love.
Sometimes it takes someone else to show someone love.
because I constantly use my love on wrong people like an idiot , so what if I’m wrong to use it on too, i struggle to find reasons to most of the time